Thanksgiving Day Tango Tips, Part 1
Each day this week, I’m going to dole out a short tip on how to deal with Thanksgiving for dual-families (where you’re “stuck” with the stepfamily or the divorced family). So here’s the first one…....
View ArticleGuest Post by Wednesday Martin: What your child’s stepmother wants you to...
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View ArticleWhat your stepchild’s mom wants you to know about her life
Mutual understanding is one of the most important ingredients in the ex-wife/wife coalition mix. This post is in response to a guest post from the stepmom’s perspective by author Wednesday Martin. Let...
View ArticleWho’s in YOUR extended family?
Who’s in your extended family? How often do you see them? Who can you call when you’re in a pinch? Most families are spread far and wide these days, so when you need a parent, sibling, grandmother or...
View ArticleExtended Families through a Teen's Eyes
Well, I thought I’d do a Vulcan mind-meld with my eldest daughter, S. to see if she had any staggering insights into life in an "extended family" and she basically looked at me as if I were wearing...
View ArticleA Tiny Bridgemaker – Part One
“All I know is, when we have a baby, I don’t want her to see it, hold it, or have anything to do with it. She just needs to stay away!” Those were the sentiments of Carol, my children’s stepmother....
View ArticleA Tiny Bridgemaker – Part Two
I watched David and Carol go through the emotional rollercoaster of trying to adopt with one agency and my heart softened, even though I could tell the girls were nervous about the possibilities of...
View ArticleMonday Maybe: First, do no harm…
(Here’s a little experiment to try this week….) Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle. -Philo If you’re wanting to create a friendlier relationship with the mom or stepmom and aren’t...
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No One’s the Bitch: A Ten-Step Plan for Mothers and Stepmothers is a revolutionary, new approach to diffusing the traditional animosity between moms and stepmoms — and creating a brand, new version of...
View ArticleMonday Maybe: The Mother’s Day Card Dare
Here’s a really cool idea, courtesy The Step Mom’s Toolbox: on Mother’s Day (Sunday, May 10th), send a card to the “other woman.” Meaning, if you’re the mom—send a card to the stepmom. And if you’re...
View ArticleWhat about what happens AFTER the divorce?
Picture a hay wagon, careening along a bumpy road, strewing bits of straw in its wake. On one side of the truck, you have a stepfamily — the father and stepmother tersely yelling at each other to hang...
View ArticleHappy Mother’s Day!
To ANYONE who takes care of our children, whether you made them or not, I salute you! Thank for all you do for these little beings (and sometimes medium and big ones) who can be moody, uncooperative,...
View ArticleImpossibly High Standards
When it comes to how you expect the other woman to behave, could you meet those same standards? Never say a single bad word against you. Always do what’s best for the children (according to your...
View ArticleBoth Sides Lose: Brandi Glanville and LeAnn Rimes Cibrian
If there’s one thing I wish I could tell LeAnn Rimes Cibrian and Brandi Glanville, it would be: keep it to yourselves. Or rather, keep it between yourselves and out of the spotlight. “It” being their...
View ArticleFive Surprising Things This Divorced Mom Learned After Becoming a Stepmom
It really is a mindf**k. Okay, so after almost seven years of writing about divorced moms and stepmoms, I thought I understood how and why so many stepmoms were having such a hard time. The kids...
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